Marriage is definitely one of the best things to experience in a lifetime – or, at least, it should be. Tinsley Keefe has been working as a wedding officiant for the Oklahoma City business ‘Lifelong Wedding Ceremonies’ long enough to know that sometimes people get married for the wrong reasons. Even worse, sometimes people get married for the right reasons and then later realize that they are not as compatible as originally thought.
One of the biggest marriage failures is caused by a lack of communication before the wedding. There are certain things you will want to discuss with your significant other before settling down with them. For example, are they pro-choice or pro-life? If you are pro-choice and you find out that your spouse is pro-life . . . if you do not want a baby and you end up getting pregnant, obviously there is going to be a problem.
Should there be a problem? Tinsley Keefe has been pro-choice for as long as she can remember, and as a wedding officiant in Oklahoma, she is constantly reminded by her clients of why she is pro-choice in the first place. There should not be a problem if you become pregnant too soon and you wish to get an abortion. Unfortunately, those that identify as pro-life will make the situation difficult. This is why it is extremely important to discuss your stance on abortion with your significant other before you get married.
The last thing you want to do is fall in love, tie the knot, get pregnant before you are ready, and then get a divorce because your spouse will not tolerate abortions. On the other hand, Tinsley also wants to stress to those that are pro-life that their views should not influence their significant other. Most people that are pro-choice will let pro-life people live in peace. If the media has told us anything lately, it is that the opposite is apparent for pro-life people.
If you are pro-life – that is fine. You do you. If your significant other is pro-choice and they get pregnant, they have the right to get an abortion because it is their body – not yours. You should not only help them through this process by giving them your understanding, but you should be supportive because they are your spouse. In addition, Tinsley Keefe has had her share of both pro-life and pro-choice clients as a wedding officiant in OKC, which has given her the chance to share her own advice with couples of either stance or both.
For starters, if you find yourself in a situation where you are just now finding out your spouse has a different abortion stance than you . . . relax. Take a deep breath. The most helpful thing you can do is discuss it calmly with them. Sit them down at the table, explain that you are not ready to have a family and go from there. The situation can be resolved if handled correctly; no yelling, no judging, and no prejudice. If they are still responding with prejudiced views, they are not worth your time.