Waiting to have sex until after you are married is not as unusual nowadays as people might believe. Despite living in a country where basically everything is sexualized, the US is still overpopulated with religious fanatics that believe in and practice abstinence. This is, of course, not necessarily a bad thing. If a person’s personal belief and desire is to wait, then that is their decision. They have every right to dictate how they give up their virginity.
Tinsley Keefe has been working as a wedding officiant in Oklahoma City long enough to recognize the dying importance behind virginities. Too many times, a client will confide in Tinsley that their emotion towards their lack of experience is not excitement or honor, but instead shame and embarrassment. This is why Tinsley is constantly assuring those in doubt that losing your virginity should mean something if you want it to mean something.
Unfortunately, we cannot have it both ways. Either society is ridiculing those that have sex before marriage for tainting themselves, or they are humiliating those that do not for their absence of practice. Tinsley Keefe is growing tired and sad of coming across Oklahoma wedding officiant clients that cannot enjoy their big day or their honeymoon because of the fear birthed from the stigma society carries. This is why Tinsley offers advice to those that relate to the fear mentioned above.
First and foremost, you should do what you want to do. If you are being pressured into having sex with your partner before marriage, then maybe you should reconsider your partner. There is nothing wrong with abstinence, if that is what you want to do. There is also nothing wrong with being selective in your partner picking process. If you prefer your partner to be abstinent as well, then do not settle for less.
On the other hand, there is a problem when you try to force your own personal beliefs onto somebody else. If another person does not want to be abstinent, you cannot and should not make them. It will only complicate things; forcing them to hide their curiosity and desire for adventure rather than take pride in it. The situation is likewise for a person that wants to be abstinent. On the chance that their partner either decides to give up abstinence – or never practiced it in the first place – they should not pressure the other into giving up their abstinence as well.
As a wedding officiant in OKC, Tinsley is constantly coming across couples on both ends of the spectrum. Most of the time, the couples that practice abstinence and the couples that do not will have an amazing wedding and honeymoon regardless of what others might think. Tinsley reminds you that in the end, the only thing that matters is your happiness with your life partner. Whatever belief you practice is yours to practice – you have that right – but it is also your duty to respect the beliefs of others. If you go through life with that sentiment, you will appreciate the respect given back to you.