Marriage is a holy sacrament ordained by God. By keeping God at the center of your marriage, you and your spouse can have a truly wondrous existence together as husband and wife. Dr. John Patrick Keefe II, a wedding minister in Oklahoma City, wants your Christian marriage to be beautiful and all that it can be in the eyes of the Lord. Here are six Bible-based tips that are great pieces of advice for any man and woman entering into holy matrimony.
1. Don’t Let the Sun Go Down Upon Your Anger
The Bible says in Ephesians 4:26 to not let the sun go down while you are still angry. Make it your goal to clear the air with your spouse on a daily basis. This doesn’t mean that the two of you will be having major arguments every day, but even a small misunderstanding that goes unresolved can leave the both of you at odds the next morning.
2. Marriage is not 50-50
Have you ever heard it said that marriage is 50% on you and 50% on your spouse? This couldn’t be further from the truth. You and your spouse should both be giving 100% of yourselves to one another. The Bible says that it is a man’s responsibility to love (Ephesians 5:25) and it is a woman’s responsibility to submit (Ephesians 5:22). The amazing thing about this is that God does not say, “a man should love his wife if she submits.” Or, “a woman should submit to her husband if he loves her.” Each spouse’s responsibility is independent of what the other one does.
3. Keep Marriage Problems Personal
You should never share your marital issues with co-workers, acquaintances, or sometimes, even friends. If you are working with a marriage counselor, it is a good thing to be transparent. However, if you are having coffee with your friends, keep your marriage issues to yourself. Even when your marital issues are resolved, your friends will still remember the problems that you spoke to them about, thus, leaving them susceptible to criticize your spouse in their hearts. Plus, you don’t want to gossip about your husband or wife.
4. Live Financially Responsible
One of the main causes of divorce is finances. It’s wise to live within your means because by doing this, you keep unnecessary stress off your marriage. Sometimes you have to ask yourself what is more important, buying that expensive sports car or driving a wedge between you and your spouse.
5. Always Put God First
If you put God at the top of your priority list, He will show you where your emphasis should be at any given point. Some might say that their spouse, children, or job come first, but then wonder why their marriages are failing. If God is honestly first, then the other priorities in your life will neatly fall in their respective places.
6. Love One Another
Make a choice to love your spouse even when he or she does not deserve it. There are times when you aren’t going to deserve love, and you’ll want your husband or wife to still continue to love you.