You found the person of your dreams – the one you want to spend the rest of your life with. They accept you for all of your good and bad points, and vice versa. It is time to tie the knot. The only stepping stone is the fear of throwing a wedding as your true self; your transgender self. Even though you should never feel ashamed to be yourself, Dr. Tinsley Ariana Taylor Keefe has witnessed the tragic opposite as a wedding officiant in Oklahoma City. This is why she stresses the importance of knowing that as a transgender bride or groom, you are never alone (even when you think you are).
The first thing to keep in mind is the support system you might not know anything about. Whether you prefer to find solace online or offline, there are always options. Dr. Tinsley Keefe makes the point that the easiest way to find support is virtually, and as a wedding officiant in Oklahoma she has seen the solar system of sustenance herself. Hundreds of forums, websites, and social media groups exist of people going through very similar situations. Sometimes the most surprising and comforting support is the kind you do not find physically.
Offline transgender support groups also exist, and Tinsley Keefe has seen some of them herself while working as a wedding officiant in OKC. One of the biggest topics of conversation at these support groups is wishing to marry but not knowing how without letting ones true self down. Being surrounded by people who understand what you are going through is a huge relief, and so are the hugs that come with it . . . provided you are a hugging person. Even if physical contact is not your forte, the likeminded individuals at these events are wonderful at respecting personal boundaries which only makes the experience better.
The most important thing Dr. Tinsley Keefe has learned from transgender brides and grooms during her time as a wedding officiant in Oklahoma is that the best support system is the person you are marrying. If you are ready to spend your life with this person, then you can surely trust them enough to tell them your fears. The best way to have a fantasy wedding is to be very open and willing with your other half. Let them help you. By going through this process as a couple, it can strengthen your relationship rather than compromise it. Do not let your fear stop you from being happy.
This is your wedding – not your families or your friend’s. You should not be worried over their approval because you and your significant other should be dictating the approvals and disapprovals during this time in your life. If you follow a few of Dr. Tinsley Ariana Taylor Keefe’s tips, you will be enjoying your wedding and your future rather than dreading it. Do not forget that you deserve to enjoy it.