Finding the perfect dress is a challenge for any bride – transgender or not. They make TV shows about it for Pete’s sake! When you are a transgender bride, finding the perfect dress might be even more of a challenge. Dr. Tinsley Ariana Taylor Keefe knows from her time as a wedding officiant in Oklahoma City that there are many aspects to consider. Are you still transitioning? Have you had the upper surgery? If not, are you willing to stuff the top part of your dress or do you need to find a dress that works for flatter chests? Do not stress because you must remember that many women have flat chests and they still get married in beautiful dresses.
Dr. Tinsley Keefe knows from witnessing Lifelong Wedding Ceremonies in Oklahoma as a wedding officiant that the biggest thing is being familiar with your body. If you are still in the process of transitioning, then consider waiting to buy your dress until the “last minute” – about a week or two before the ceremony. This might be dangerous, but it is also the easiest way to avoid problems that revolve around not fitting into your dress. Another thing you can do is guesstimate where your size will be at around your wedding date. If you are done transitioning, you might still find a few problems. Maybe you have broad shoulders. You might lack curves.
Tinsley Ariana Taylor Keefe does not want you to worry: customized dresses are a thing and they are a wonderful thing. She has seen enough wedding ceremonies in OKC as a wedding officiant to know that sometimes customized dresses are the answer. There are more benefits to a customized dress than just getting the size perfect, but that perfect size is a huge benefit. When you go in to get your measurements, you can either get them done exact or you can guesstimate with the designer on what your size will be closer to the wedding. By doing this, the chances of your dress not fitting are very slim.
What is even better is realizing that no one else will ever wear the same dress as you – unless you decide to sell it later on. Tinley Keefe knows from her experience as a wedding officiant in Oklahoma that customized dresses are the answer for brides everywhere but especially transgender brides. What better way to look styling on your wedding day than in a dress that was literally made for you? Unfortunately, a customized dress is not always an option for brides . . . especially if you are stuck in a specific budget. If you are a transgender bride with a strict budget, consider buying a dress that strikes you as the “perfect dress” and then get it tailored to fit you accordingly. Regardless of what you do to find the best wedding dress, if you follow Tinsley Keefe’s advice, you will be the center of attention on your wedding day (just as you should be).