Transitioning is hard enough as it is . . . But what happens when you are already married and you realize you are not being true to yourself? What happens when your significant other marries you as one gender – the gender that is not really you – and suddenly you have the opportunity to become your true self? Dr. Tinsley Ariana Taylor Keefe has seen the worst happen as a wedding officiant in Oklahoma City, and the biggest thing she stresses is remembering that nobody, not even your spouse, should stop you from doing something that will make you happy. Transitioning is just one of those things, but it is a pretty big one. The first step is talking to your spouse. How do they feel about your realization? Do they support you?
The important thing is getting through the initial shock. Tinsley Keefe pulls from her experience as a wedding officiant in Oklahoma and explains the significance of talking about the realization of your true self with your spouse rather than hiding it. If you choose not to transform into the person that will make you truly happy simply because of your life partner, then you need to rethink what a life partner truly means. You married this person because you love them, and chances are they love you too. That love should be strong enough to at least discuss this realization. Talking through the realization is important because it will give you the chance to grow stronger and your spouse the chance to either accept your true self or accept to move on.
Tinsley Ariana Taylor Keefe has seen several situations similar to this one during her time as a wedding officiant in OKC, and is sad to say that sometimes . . . the marriage will not work out. If your spouse decides that your transformation is too much for them, you need to let them go. The pain will be unbearable. Your heart might break in a way you have never felt before. In the end, it is for the best. If your spouse cannot accept your true gender, then you will find someone who will. It might be a process – in fact, it will be a process. Somewhere along the way you will move on from your spouse, and then you will be able to truly appreciate how great it feels to be your true self with nothing to hold you back.
As a wedding officiant in Oklahoma, Tinsley Keefe has also seen marriages hold strong after transitioning. The fact is that soul-mates will not care what gender you are – what privates you have – they will care about spending an eternity with your soul. Your soul is something that remains untouched and unchanged despite any physical or mental changes your body and mind might go through. If you have true love, transitioning will be a process you go through together. They will be your rock. If your spouse leaves you, then they simply were not your one true love. This means you can enjoy the excitement of knowing you still have time to find that person as your true self.