Pre-marital counselling

Found the ‘Prince Charming’ or the ‘Belle’ of your dreams?
Everything appears perfect! The way it should be…….
Tying the knot and settling together seems like a fairy-tale COMETRUE!

But, WAIT!!! Is IT?
Is your gut instinct telling you to reconsider your options?
Are you under pressure from your fiancé?
Are you afraid, confused and perplexed?
Should you plan and prepare?

Don’t fear Lifelong Wedding Ceremonies is HERE!

Human is a Social Animal, created to survive in pairs bonded by love and affection. Though, every individual struggles in finding the right partner, their willingness to settle down and start a family often downplays their personality, aims, ambitions purpose and most importantly the expectations from their life partner.
This often creates resentment, misunderstanding, failure to compromise for the well-being of their relationship, compatibility challenges and throws what could be a long-lasting relationship, to the rocks.

What could be worse?!You think you have walked through your entire life in your head with the ‘one’, but have you, REALLY? Marriage has many aspects, which couples are not aware of till they experience it. Life encounters waves, tsunamis will often hit you…..but are you mentally prepared to sail your boat smoothly throughout your journey in the vast ocean? Think again! If not, pre-marital counselling is right for you!

Dr. Tinsley Keefe,Reverend Glenna Sue Voegle and other licensed ministers of Lifelong Wedding Ceremonies are pleased to offer premarital counseling services in Oklahoma!
Premarital services offered, aim at exercises to strengthen your bond as a couple and prepare you for marriage!

Wait…nobody told us Marriage is planning for future,
It’s magical and a fairy tale isn’t it?!

Marriage marks the most important ‘foundational milestone’ in our lives. Just like finding the right spouse isn’t easy, settling with the ‘one’ for the rest of your entire life seems scary enough, let alone not to be sure of your life changing decision!

Nowadays, many couplesrush into getting married, without even realizing what a huge commitment married life entails! Many brides and grooms never discuss important and even seemingly insignificant matters before tying the knot. They do not discuss roles, expectations, kids, jobs, money, and so much more. This is where premarital counselingcan come in really handy to prepare you for your lifelong journey and the future plans of your family, ahead!

Given that marriage so important and sensitive, what are you doing about it?

Should you even prepare for it?

Let us see why…….

Evaluation of your own unhealthy tendencies

Growing up in a broken home, with divorced parents, with live-in relationships without commitment, with parents struggling to stay together or with parents failing to provide for their children adequately, all these situations leave a long lasting impact on the lives of the children growing amidst them.

The couples getting married may realize that “I’m not going to have a marriage like that,” or “I’m not ever going to do it that way,” might be the best solution for a happy life. But one must understand that saying things out loud or sheer power is not sufficient to keep your marriage away from hitting the shores.

Set yourself up to succeed! Be proactive and seeking out marital preparation with Dr. Tinsley Keefe, Reverend Glenna Sue Voegle and other licensed ministers of Lifelong Wedding Ceremonies to explore the awareness of what might have gone wrong for others so that it may not be the case for you!

Lifelong Wedding Ceremonieswill assist you with identifying unhealthy tendencies and perspectives to marriage that can help you avoid falling in the pattern to divorce.

Evaluation of your own preconceived ideas and expectations

Every individual has had a different and unique life. Everyone’s own life is an adventure, where they grow, change and evolve with the passage of time. The Physical, mental, spiritual and sexual needs not only differ individually, but keep on evolving. Consequently, an individual expects its spouse to have similar perceptions, sensitivities and choices on the matters of physical, mental, spiritual and sexual needs. Most of the time, conflict and disagreement arises when the ‘the soul-mate’, ‘the partner’ who is by your side throughout your life, has a different or opposite preferences, perception and insights on doing things.

The problem arises when one individual thinks of their perceptions, preferences and sensitivities to be the RIGHT WAY, because they perceive that as the normal way, the way they did things when growing up.

Couples rush into marriage with expectations that they are not even aware of. The couples are not aware of their expectations from their partners until they are not met! Evaluating these expectations and the subsequent anticipations from your partner, is particularly important if you are marrying inter-faith or inter-cultural or when the choice of your spouse (same sex or LGBTQ+) is not apprised of by your own family

Receiving training from Dr. Tinsley Keefe, Reverend Glenna Sue Voegle and other licensed ministers of Lifelong Wedding Ceremonies who can guide the couple in identifying perceived expectations and the sensitive areas, which are most likely the cause of the conflict.

Opportunities to Address Issues and Conflicts while planning for the future

  • Is getting married in Oklahoma a good idea?
  • Is getting married to my future spouse a bad idea?
  • Who is going to take out the trash?
  • How much time do you both plan on spending together?
  • What shall we do with our finances?
  • What happens if our close relatives get sick and need to move in with us?
  • How do we handle stress?
  • What is our parenting style going to be?
  • If I have been married before, what caused our previous marriages to end in divorce?
  • What kind of toothpaste and toilet paper are we going to use?

When it comes to marriage, one cannot avoid the fate, but for the least, one can take a calculated decision, to avoid regret and guilt, later. Many young couples who rush into fulfilling their life goals, especially the ones with the instant crushes turned love, are unprepared to handle the responsibilities it entails for a successful marriage.

The 14+ years’ experience allows Lifelong ceremonies to counsel the couple while engaging them in a lot of questions that help them analyze their future with their chosen spouse.

Pre-marital counsellinghelps bring out information, sensitive issues and expectations which the partners are reluctant to share. Experienced ministers atLifelong ceremonies are well trained in bringing up sensitive issues while keeping the conversations more candid, at the same time providing a safe space for couples to engage without hurting the feelings of their partners. These sessions help couples learn more about each other, while offering a great growth opportunity.

Engaging couples in exercises which allow them to open up softly, more candidly and comfortably opens up channels of communication where partners tend to ‘Listen closely and calmly’ to each other. This is one of the major areas that navigates conflict, misunderstanding and resentment. It can be particularly helpful if one individual in the couple has been in failed relationships before.

 

Enter into marriage with a framework for building a healthy relationship

One of the main reasons why more and more couples are opting for premarital counselling is that it gives couples a sense of awareness, stability, safety, direction, and an idea of what they are stepping into.

Dr. Tinsley Keefe, Reverend Glenna Sue Voegle and other licensed ministers of Lifelong Wedding Ceremonies are well-trained and experienced to take out potential fear, unhealthy tendencies and unrealistic goals and expectations while giving the couple guidance, hope and tips for successfully navigating conflicts and meaningful conversations.

The counselling allows the couple to explore questions and topics which govern every phase of their upcoming life. Some crucial topics included in the discussion cover aspects like:

  • Beliefs and values
  • Perception and Roles in marriage
  • Communication
  • Time spent together
  • Affection and sex
  • Children and parenting
  • Family relationships
  • Decision-making
  • Dealing with anger
  • Finances

Additionally, there are so many benefits that couples that choose the premarital counseling option receive, and some of these include but are not limited to, the following:

  • Find Out Why You Are Getting Married.
  • Discover What The Benefits & Challenges Of Marriage
  • Have A Clearer Understanding Of Many Marital Expectations
  • See Whether Or Not You & Your Partner Have The Same Ideas About Marriage
  • Enjoy A Longer, Happier Marriage

 

WAIT! Lifelong ceremonies want you to SAVE YOUR MARRIAGE AND MONEY?

Dr. Tinsley Keefe and other licensed ministers of Lifelong Wedding Ceremonies ARE DETERMINED TO PUSH YOU ON THE PATH FOR AN EVERLASTING LOVE!

The State of Oklahoma will allow all couples that engage in premarital counseling through Lifelong Wedding Ceremonies to obtain their wedding licenses for only $5!That means you save $45 offthe cost of getting your marriage license, as you will otherwise have to pay $50.

Since the cost of premarital counseling through Lifelong Wedding Ceremonies is only $25, you actually save a total of $20 and benefit from premarital counseling! What a deal!

Benefits to reap for the lifetime!

Premarital counseling with Dr. Tinsley Keefe and other licensed ministers in Oklahoma via Lifelong Wedding Ceremonies can really pay off even more in the long run!

Aside from the overall $20 you will end up saving on the cost of your marriage license, just think about how much potential time, stress and the extensive costs of divorce and child custody battles you could end up saving?

Divorce can be so hard on families, and they are even more so for families with children. If you think you don’t have four hours to devote to premarital counseling with Dr. Tinsley Keefe and the other licensed ministers with Lifelong Wedding Ceremonies, then please just think of how expensive a messy divorce and child custody battle could be! An ounce of prevention is worth a pound of medicine. By investing a little extra time up front with premarital counseling before you tie the knot and get married, you could potentially be saving yourself an enormous headache later on down the line.

There are no right or wrong answers during your confidential premarital counseling, and you will never be put “in the hot seat” per se. The goals and purposes of providing these premarital counseling service in Oklahoma are to help you decide if marriage is right for you at this point in time. Dr. Tinsley Keefe and Lifelong Wedding Ceremonies want to help you ensure that you are going into marriage for the right reasons. It is important that you know that we want you to feel relaxed, laid back, and for you to enjoy our discussion! At the end of the premarital counseling in Oklahoma, your decision as to whether or not to proceed with your wedding ceremony is entirely your call!

Please call Dr. Tinsley Keefe of Lifelong Wedding Ceremonies at (405) 696-6450 today for all of your premarital counseling needs!

 

  • Is getting married in Oklahoma a good idea?
  • Is getting married to my future spouse a bad idea?
  • Who is going to take out the trash?
  • How much time do you both plan on spending together?
  • What shall we do with our finances?
  • What happens if our close relatives get sick and need to move in with us?
  • How do we handle stress?
  • What is our parenting style going to be?
  • If I have been married before, what caused our previous marriages to end in divorce?
  • What kind of toothpaste and toilet paper are we going to use?

These are just a few of the many topics you will have the benefit of exploring with your premarital counselor! Premarital counseling in Oklahoma is such a wonderful idea, because so many people get married and divorced far too easily and quickly.

There are so many benefits that couples that choose the premarital counseling option receive, and some of these include but are not limited to, the following:

  • Find Out Why You Are Getting Married.
  • Discover What The Benefits & Challenges Of Marriage Are.
  • Have A Clearer Understanding Of Many Marital Expectations.
  • See Whether Or Not You & Your Partner Have The Same Ideas About Marriage.
  • Enjoy A Longer, Happier Marriage With A Lower Divorce Rate!
  • Get Better Discernment About Whether Or Not Marriage Is Right For You.

WAIT! WHAT’S THE BEST PART? PREMARITAL COUNSELING WILL SAVE ME MONEY? YES! ALL PREMARITAL COUNSELING REALLY COSTS YOU IS A LITTLE BIT OF YOUR TIME! 
The State of Oklahoma will allow all couples that engage in premarital counseling through Lifelong Wedding Ceremonies to obtain their wedding licenses for only $5! That means you save $45 off the cost of getting your marriage license, as you will otherwise have to pay $50. Since the cost of premarital counseling through Lifelong Wedding Ceremonies is only $25, you actually save a total of $20 and benefit from premarital counseling! What a deal! 

Premarital counseling with Dr. Tinsley Keefe and other licensed ministers in Oklahoma via Lifelong Wedding Ceremonies can really pay off even more in the long run! Aside from the overall $20 you will end up saving on the cost of your marriage license, just think about how much potential time, stress and the extensive costs of divorce and child custody battles you could end up saving?

Divorce can be so hard on families, and they are even more so for families with children. If you think you don’t have four hours to devote to premarital counseling with Dr. Tinsley Keefe and the other licensed ministers with Lifelong Wedding Ceremonies, then please just think of how expensive a messy divorce and child custody battle could be! An ounce of prevention is worth a pound of medicine. By investing a little extra time up front with premarital counseling before you tie the knot and get married, you could potentially be saving yourself an enormous headache later on down the line.

There are no right or wrong answers during your confidential premarital counseling, and you will never be put “in the hot seat” per se. The goals and purposes of providing these premarital counseling service in Oklahoma are to help you decide if marriage is right for you at this point in time. Dr. Tinsley Keefe and Lifelong Wedding Ceremonies want to help you ensure that you are going into marriage for the right reasons. It is important that you know that we want you to feel relaxed, laid back, and for you to enjoy our discussion! At the end of the premarital counseling in Oklahoma, your decision as to whether or not to proceed with your wedding ceremony is entirely your call! 

Please call Dr. Makayla Saramosing of Lifelong Wedding Ceremonies at (405) 696-6450 today for all of your premarital counseling needs!